Why and how to STOP domestic violence ? Inspired by Novel "Arranged Marriage," by Chitra Banerjee
Storified by Gita Muhammeti · Wed, Aug 03 2016 23:43:28
Over the years violence happens everywhere regardless of social class, education level, and places of origin. It can take the form of intimate partner abuse which can result in serious injury or death.The main reasons why women accept this violence from their partners include having hope that they will stop abusing them in the future,having no support from their families,inadequate laws that do not protect them enough, and being dependent on their partners for economic survival. It is a sad truth that there is not always a way for these abused women to survive in this society. People should not make any judgments which could scare these vulnerable women and keep them from sharing their stories and asking for help. Instead, they can listen and find a logical solution to any of the problems these women face. People can refer them to organizations that support these abused women. "Woman" from the time she is born she becomes a daughter, a sister, a mother,and a wife and all these carry a huge responsibility. Because of this, women deserve respect and positive attention from their partners. They are a life partners not slaves. In the novel "Arranged Marriage by Chita Banerjee Divakaruni, the first chapter "The Bats," explains how her mother was too quiet about her husband's violence , and the effect it had on their daughter. Although many people believe domestic violence happens mostly in developing coubtries like India, the fact is that it happens all around the world including America. Americans should be more aware and understanding of domestic violence issues and know how to take action to end these violent crimes.
Todays Rate of Domestic Violence;
Domestic violence is increasing everywhere including the America according to CQ Researcher, "Domestic Violence Incidents of domestic violence have declined by more than half over the past two decades, according to U.S.A Department of Justice crime surveys." but that does not mean domestic violence has been stop compeletly. unfortunatly intimate partner abuse is a seroiuse issue that cause many death when a victim wants to end the relashionships or wants to esceap from abuser. Morover, they will have a long-term or even whole life to carry psycological problems.
Todays Victims' Saftey
CQ Researcher claims that Domestic Violence meanwhile, new technology such as GPS and social media made it easier for abusers to track and intimidate their victims. In the past was easier for victims to escape from domestic violence; however; these days technology give more chance to abusers to keep track of the victims throgh GPS, social medias such as Facebook, Instagram, where ever is their contact information.
Psychologic Aspects of Abusers
There are always some psycologycal aspects behind the abusers can be veritey of reason and one of them is alcohol and drugs usage. The people who are addicted to these would lose their control and choose their partner to release strees of this addiction. 2013 by Routledge that, Alcohol abuse is an overwhelmingly male problem (there are seven male problem users for every one female worldwide), and there is a demonstrable relationship between men with drinking problems and aggression against female partners. More than two-thirds of men who have committed or attempted homicide against a partner used alcohol or drugs, or both, during the event, whereas less than one-quarter of the victims partook in these behaviors.
Statistics
Presents estimates on nonfatal domestic violence from 2003 to 2012 domestic violence accounted for 21% of all violent crime.
A greater percentage of domestic violence was committed by intimate partners (15%) than immediate family members (4%) or other relatives (2%).
Current or former boyfriends or girlfriends committed most domestic violence.
Females (76%) experienced more domestic violence victimizations than males (24%)
A greater percentage of domestic violence was committed by intimate partners (15%) than immediate family members (4%) or other relatives (2%).
Current or former boyfriends or girlfriends committed most domestic violence.
Females (76%) experienced more domestic violence victimizations than males (24%)
Negative Impacts on Witness Children;
problems associated with children's witnessing of domestic violence are negative effect no only on their current sitiuation but also they may highly chance of become a victim or abuser in the future. They become more agressive outside of house or leave the houes in the early age. Some children run away from violent homes, which increases the risk of substance use, prostitution, homelessness, physical illness or injury, and victimization. They feel isolated with low self-esteem and all these wont let this child to build his future. All the childhood memories are the most important moments in a child life.
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. There is NO “typical victim.” Victims of domestic violence come from all walks of life, varying age groups, all backgrounds, all communities, all education levels, all economic levels, all cultures, all ethnicities, all religions, all abilities, and all lifestyles. So you cant identify anyone who is a victim by just looking at them. Most victims dont like anyone to know if they were a victim of domestic violence because they might feel uncomfortable or even emberrased. So, victims of domestic violence dont have a similarity for you to know what they have been through in the past. Dont judge anyone unless you know for sure and if you do know dont tell everyone or make fun of them.
