Storified by Shiyi Chua · Wed, Dec 05 2012 00:47:23
In this modern era, people always love to rely on things. Not only things, but also rely on other people too. For example, people always rely on those electronic products such as laptop, smartphone and they started not to solve their problems by themselves. People must not rely on anyone and must learn how to face the outside world. Being independence teaches us a lot, such as finish works without any support from others. Independence is when you do not need as much help from others. There are many advantages from being independent and one of the advantage is we can have more privacy time. Although some people enjoy being relied on one another but actually people enjoy more freedom in this world. For some youngsters, they rely on their parents for a longtime, so the youngsters are now less capable of facing challenges. Hence, here is a few ways to become an independent person.
First, people need to learn as many as possible to increase their general knowledge by reading some educational book or motivation book. It is the most effective way to become an independent person. If people can learn more things, they will gain more knowledge and can rely on ourselves but not someone else. Besides that, they also can become the tutor that teaches other people how to become independent. For example, the reason why people will get used to rely on someone else or some electronic products are because their general knowledge is not enough, so they will try to rely on someone to complementary their deficiency. It is truly a bad habit since there is no one that will help each other all the lifetime but only we can help ourselves. So we must try to gain as many as possible of knowledge to increase our general knowledge by reading book.
Thus, try to accept and believe in yourself. People cannot be independent if they do not accept and believe in themselves. It is an issue that related to self-confidence. We can watch some inspirational books or listen to inspirational songs to inspirational us to be more independent. People cannot build a strong and independent person if they did not trust themselves. Accept what you have right now, such as your body, characteristics, opinion, choices, and family background. Put behind the entire mistake and learn from them. We are all unique and different. If we do not believe in ourselves, who will? Even though others else do not believe in you, you yourself definitely must believe in yourself. It is the most basic way to become independent. We all not live to please somebody else so try to be yourself. We are all one and only in this world. Therefore, believe in yourself, trust yourself, you can always do the best if you believe that you are the best.
Then, be responsible to your own daily life. People cannot rely on others else by doing all those chores such as cooking and doing laundry. We must learn how to be independent on all these chores especially youngsters nowadays. Youngsters love to rely on their parents or the worker that hired by their parents. This is the main reason why the youngsters nowadays cannot be independent. They love to rely on their parents and not to do any household chores even some own matter such as cleaning their own room, doing their own laundry and many more. It is a terrible problem that faced by many parents. However, many of the parents are trying to solve these problems by playing some education game with them and teaching them to be independent step by step. It is one of the best methods by teaching the children to be more independent by using game. Therefore, the youngsters nowadays must learn how to be responsible to their own daily life.
According to Chua Shi Hui, who had studied in Taylor’s University for two years then moved to the University of the West of England that located at the United Kingdom for one year to study BA (Hons) Accounting and Finance and currently has been staying in Singapore for 3 year to work as internal audit executive said, before she went to the United Kingdom, she is also a child that always relies on parents. All the household chores will be done and prepared by her parents and she had never done it all by herself. But after the study trip to the United Kingdom, she has started to do everything all by herself. She can cook her own meal, she can do her own laundry, and most importantly she is much more independent as compared to previously. Besides that, she also stated that after the valuable experience from the study trip in the United Kingdom, she is now independent enough and that is the reason she has decided to pursue her career in Singapore, a place which is totally foreign to her. As at today, it is already her third year in Singapore and she has no plan to return to Malaysia at least in the short term. She expressed that leaving hometown to further study and work are the most effective way to become independent because once you leave the comfort zone, you will start to realize that many things can be done equally well even with our own hands and without the reliance of both parents.
On the other hand, according to Jin Juan, who come from China that currently study for Foundation in Mass Communication at Taylor’s University Lakeside campus said, she came to Malaysia for one year to study English language and another half year study for Foundation in Mass Communication. She stated that she has been already getting used to the surrounding of Malaysia. It is a great chance for her to become more independent after she come from Malaysia and need to do her own things by herself. Not only household chores and also some finance management and self-management.
For conclusion, in this 20th century, we must really need to learn how to be independent because we are all human-being and we all have the ability to become independent. The responsibility of parents is teaching their children how to be independent when they are kids and not helping them to do all the household chores and choices. As for teenagers, maybe it will take a long time and need to put in more effort to teach them how to be independent, but after they become independent, they will use it for a lifetime. Rome was not built in a day, so no one is completely independent. We can learn it or get used to it step by step. It is not as hard as you imagined if you have perseverance to do it.